reflection task 2a

Jenna McCarthy: ‘What you don’t know about marriage’ by TED.com

 There are three points that I agree with the speaker about marriage and couples’ relationship. The first point I agree with the speaker is that in the happiest marriages, the wife is thinner and better looking than the husband. People want partners who are well-dressed and well-cared for their appearences, but unfortunately this is not enough. I think that in a relationship or marriage, the man shouldn’t be thinner or shorter than his partner since a woman wants her partner to be a shelter and to give the feeling of safety and a man wants to make his partner feel comfortable, and it seems  that it’s possible with the difference on the appearance between the two. Secondly, she says the more willing a husband is to do house work, the more attractive his wife will find him and I completely agree with her. Today, women have more burdens on their shoulders than ever. In addition to house work and children care, being active in work fields have brougt them new responsibilities. Because of all these responsibilities, women cannot pay enough attention to their husbands and as a result of this, husbands attempt to find new excitements, I believe. However, when a husband helps his wife with the house work or just takes care of the children, the woman feels grateful to her husband, sees that he is thougtful and helpful, her attitude towards him changes and thanks to it, the bond between them strengtens. We can see it’s examples around us. Finally, the third point I agree with her is that drinking alcohol has a bad effect on the marriage. In my opinion, knowing your limits, especially in a relationship, is very important. Drinking in moderation does not cause any problems, of course. However, overdrinking brings the relations to the end. One of my relatives experienced it and all of the family members were badly affected, so I can say that overdrinking is one of the worst things that a marriage could experience. To sum up, she draws attention to a few points about marriage  that most of the couples have experienced, gives some useful information based on her observations and some research studies in a humorous way and I agree with her thoughts.